The Undoing
The Undoing
Writing, for me, is both a creative release and an honoring of my ancestors. It is a gift that I’ve been given, and has always come easy to me. Writing is how I release things that are bottled up inside me: ideas, frustrations, emotions. They flow effortlessly from my brain to my fingers as they glide across the keyboard, or to my pen as it slides across the pages of my journal.
My father tells me about his father, my paternal grandfather, who also loved to write. It was his gift, and it has found its way to both my older brother and me. Truth be told, I think my brother is the more talented writer (but never tell him I said that). But knowing that it was a gift my grandfather had but never shared more broadly, I write to honor him, his memory and the legacy he passed to us.
In 2021, on my 44th birthday, I committed to a Year of Discovery: a time when I would be free to try new things, dig deep, and learn more about the world around me, the people around me, and discover how they shaped (or didn’t) the life I am designing - a life of peace, joy, ease and freedom. Part of that, I found, was a deep desire to have a creative outlet. I have a deep admiration for those who have developed their creative muscles, and forgot that writing is a part of that. So this blog, “The Undoing,” is the exercise of my own creative muscle, one that I hope grows bigger and stronger with time and practice.
What to Expect: You can expect a (mostly) monthly post that is a reflection on something I have either experienced, learned about or am testing out. I believe that when we talk about the tough topics openly, we heal, we learn, we grow. But look, I’m not an expert. I’m a human being trying to navigate life like the rest of you. I just believe it’s better when we do it together. Like the elders say, “Chew the meat and spit out the bones.” Take what you need, skip what doesn’t apply to you.
Thanks for joining me on this journey, and I hope to engage you in some dialogue through the comments!
Letting Go
Letting go is hard, but it is, in fact, the most important part of parenting. And what a gift that Bear has the safety net of Mommy where she can learn these lessons. I’m grateful to give that gift to her, as much as I am grateful that she teaches me daily how to be a better parent, and a better person.
Single Parenting with COVID
I found myself having to be in isolation with COVID while parenting my 7 year old. There are lots of resources for two-parent households, but what do you do when it’s just you and you have to isolate from your child? Here are some things that I did to navigate through the 10 day isolation period while working to keep my child from contracting COVID from me.